S = Social
Social Wellness
S of BASICS is the domain dedicated to wellness of the the people in your life outside of work. It focuses on the relationships with your friends, family and significant others.
Below we will explore social wellness in more depth.
Spouses & Parteners
Supporting and sustaining relationships with your spouse, significant other or partner is critical. Eventually you will fall and these are the people who will pick you back up.
BASICS Ideas for Spouses & Parteners
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Tool: Make an appointment
Designate and protect time to be spent with your beloved partner.

- Schedule this time as an appointment on your calender.
- This precious time can be daily, and brief, such as enjoying morning coffee quietly with one another.
- Sometimes going for a walk and “escaping” the home environment is a good way to spend time talking, or just being with one another.
- Consider going to bed a little earlier to talk and unwind together, after children have gone to sleep and the home is quiet.
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Tool: Stop Pseudotalking
Avoid doing “pseudo conversation”

Pseudo-conversation is attempting to have a discussion with your partner while being preoccupied with other, usually work related, thoughts or activities. This is not a good situation for multitasking.
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Tool: Fail to Diagnose, Fail to Treat
Talk about the difficult subjects like money, sex and parenting.

- These discussions should be done in constructive ways. It is important to avoid criticism and control.
- Writing orders might be the expected way of communicating in the hospital, but that won’t work well at home
Family & Children
You need to be present for your family and children. Absence is very destructive. You may be saving lives with your presence at work while destroying lives with your absence at home.
BASICS Ideas for Family & Children
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Tool: Boundries equals Freedom
Clearly define the boundaries of your relationships with both your patients and your family.
- “Tell your patients early and often when, and under what conditions, you will be available to them — and when you won’t be available. Tell your family the same.
- Make arrangements for hospital and practice emergency and on-call coverage that allow for uninterrupted time with loved ones. Commit to that arrangement.”
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Tool: Workcations & Vacations
Family vacations are important. We often combine vaction with work. We should avoid doing this combination ALL the time.
Only planning vacations around CME events and professional conferences can disconnect a family.
Friends & Single Doctors
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BASICS Ideas for Single Doctors & Friends
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Tool: Create & Continue Connections
- Maintain family & friend contact with phone calls, email and visits.
- Plan vacations together.
- Join health clubs or other mutual interest organizations to make friends based on common interests.
- Seek opportunity to develop closer friendships with people at work, and cultivate nonmedical friendships as well.

